Me, The Black Sheep
Me, the black sheep.
I honestly never felt enough.
Whatever I did in my life, it was never enough.
I was never conventional.
I lived by my own rules, and whenever they didn’t match what others thought was right, I was shamed.
Maybe not in a way where someone threw it in my face that I was stupid.
But in a quieter way:
- Be rational.
- You cannot make a living from it.
- You have too good a brain to waste.
My way of learning was never understood.
Whenever I showed what I had created, it wasn’t good enough.
Whenever I didn’t want to pursue an opportunity that didn’t feel right for me, I was made to feel ashamed.
I mean, I don’t care about writing tales about a forest.
Why should I force myself to do it then?
Why can’t I wait for an opportunity that actually excites me?
And the worst thing was never being misunderstood.
That, I think, comes with life.
The worst thing was that I never felt people actually wanted to understand me.
At least try.
I made a quick decision that actually hurt no one, and I got attacked for making it.
I froze and couldn’t answer.
I KNEW why I did what I did.
I always knew.
I am not dumb.
Behind all the chaos, behind all the weirdness, there is an order that I understand. That I calculated.
Most of my decisions that seem impulsive are actually very well calculated and carefully planned.
So I could have answered the question if I had felt that the other person genuinely wanted to understand.
But it was always about making me make sense, not about understanding me.
So I learned that "why" actually meant, "Why not my way?" or "Why not what I wanted? Why not what I expected?"
This is how that strange contradiction was born: I either said nothing or tried to overexplain myself.
I had to learn the hard way that most people are not actually curious about my way of thinking or my decision-making.
They are annoyed, scared, or frustrated that I don’t make sense to them.
They don’t care why I create weird stuff.
They want to know why I’m not normal and why I can’t write simple love stories.
I honestly have this deep desire for someone to genuinely want to understand me.
To look at me with genuine curiosity instead of expectations.
I learned that there is no point in trying.
Because everybody sees themselves behind my actions, and that is the only perspective that works for them.
However many times I tried to explain that no, they were not right, they always seemed to know me better than I knew myself.
So...
Yeah, I don’t mind being the black sheep.
And honestly, in some way, I love it.
But it had a very sad side too.